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You are special and unique, just like everyone else
You are special, you are unique, there is no-one else in the world just like you! Scientists have proven this. And your special brand of "uniqueness" is perfect for someone out there.
In order to get a good start with your search, take some time to look inside yourself and figure out what those qualities are that make you unique. Feel free to ask close friends or family for help here. Your boyfriend-to-be will need to recognize in you those unique qualities which he seeks, so knowing what those are up-front will help you persuade him you're the one for him.
Know what you want in a boyfriend
Just as you should know what's unique about yourself, figure out what unique qualities you look for in a boyfriend. Your list (from above) of unique qualities about yourself may provide a start. For example, if you're into dancing, perhaps your boyfriend should be into it too!
Once you have your list of qualities you seek in the ideal boyfriend, go through that list and make sure it isn't too strict. For each item ask yourself, is this a deal breaker? If not, drop it off your "must have" list and add to a "nice to have" list. The goal is to pear your list down to the bare minimum.
Flaunt what your mamma gave ya, and attract a boyfriend
People come in all shapes and sizes, and so do their tastes. Modern media would have us believe that slim and tall are what guys find attractive, but in reality mens taste's are varied and what one finds "hot" another finds isn't his thing.
Out there is a guy looking for exactly what you have to offer. So be sure to let the wares speak for themselves. Make sure what you wear flatters and accentuates your particular body. Take a close girlfriend clothes shopping, try some new styles and see what advice she shares.
Switch it up, break out of some old patterns
You haven't found a match at your usual haunts, so obviously a change of pattern is required. Visit some new places on your coffee break, when going for your run, take some different routes, getting together for a few drinks with the girls? Try a new place!
These old patterns also apply to the guys you go for. Try out different types guys. Think of a trait some of your past guys have shared, and try the opposite!
Broaden your horizons to find a boyfriend
Now that you've started some new patterns, think about branching into new areas. Have you tried partner dancing? Salsa is on the upswing and there are plenty of opportunities to meet guys there! Have you ever considered taking up tennis or golf? Any new activity is bound to give you more opportunities to meet fantastic guys! For more great ideas of fun activities where guys are aplenty subscribe to my free newsletter!
Use your friends... to find a boyfriend
Have you heard the term "six degrees of separation"? It's the idea that on average, only six introductions separate us from any other person in the world. So not only are your friends a wonderful social addition to your life, they're a great resource when it comes to meeting new people. So talk to your friends, let them know you're on the lookout and get them to introduce you to some new people!
Let the internet introduce you to your future boyfriend
Next to friends, the easiest way to meet guys is online. And let me save you a lot of pain and money here... stick with a free site like Plenty Of Fish! Reviews of every paid site I've seen suggest they're not worth it.
Online dating sites have their caveats. Beware the online creep, and worse. Keep your personal information personal, meet in public places, and take all necessary precautions. You'll get plenty more in-depth information about online dating through my free newsletter.
Flirt like you mean it, guys can be a little slow
You may find it difficult to flirt with guys, but it is easier than you think! When you see a guy who looks interesting, make eye contact and smile. Step one done.
Step two involves using your "come hither" look. Tilt your head down and to the side and look out of the corner of your eye. He'll be over to chat in no time.
Two single guys walk into a bar…
So he's broken the ice and you've introduced yourself, what do you do now? Conversation should ensue... but you'll need to hold up your end of this venture.
We're not all smooth talkers, so if you find yourself at a loss for words use some humour. The key is to be prepared. Spend some time in advance thinking up (or checking online resources for) humours tidbits that would fit your particular situations. I'll have some great suggestions for you in my free newsletter.
Make the first move on your shy potential boyfriend
Sometimes the guy won't make the first move. Perhaps he's shy or maybe he's engaged in conversation and you can't even get his attention. Some direct action is required.
Sure, your mom told you never talk to strangers, and perhaps you learned that "nice girls" don't make the first move... well times have changed. You're a big girl now and these are modern times.
The key to making the first move is in the intention. It's best to start by entering into easy conversation, without coming across like you have an agenda. It’s about building fast rapport and letting the other person know that you’re cool and trustworthy. Don't go into this as if you want a date, just say "hi" and make friendly conversation!
The mirror can build rapport
When engaging in conversation with a potential boyfriend the technique of "mirroring" can be a very powerful tool for building rapport. Basically this means copying physical behaviour. This makes the other person feel like you have a strong connection.
Now you don't want to do exactly what the other person is doing, but pick and choose things to copy, and make your changes after a varying amount of delay so they don't detect that this is what you're doing. When done well, mirroring is a very effective, and in my free newsletter I'll give you more information for getting this right.
Help him understand "you're the one"
So you're getting a good feel for this guy, and you want him to get to know you, and what a great catch you really are. It's easy to become excited and overpower a conversation at this point, so be careful to listen as much as you speak.
When it's your turn to talk, use anecdotes to describe yourself, and try to end with a related question, to keep the conversation rolling.
Is he waving any red flags?
I'm sure you can think of boyfriends you've had who displayed "red flags" that you overlooked in the heat and excitement of the new relationship. It's a lesson to learn... keep your eyes open for these signs!
Make sure what he says matches what he does and what you see. If he drives an expensive car but rents a small apartment, or maybe he spends a good deal of money but won't tell you exactly what he does for work, watch out! I'll have many more red flags for you to watch for in my free newsletter.
Have fun with your guys, but play safe
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